R Man and I have been together 27 years, 20 of them here in San Francisco. We plan on marrying this fall, in our home, surrounded by our friends. All we have to do is wring a time out of the Diane von Austinberg for when she can be here to set the date. She’ll be our flowergirl.
Neither of us is comfortable with publicly expressed emotions; we may be gay guys, but we’re guys after all. I think that may be one of the reasons why we’re doing this. We want to make a stand against all the negative training that our whole lives spent in the shadow of the straight world has taught us. I want to confront all the forces that have always said “No, you can’t” to me and retort “Yes, I will.” I want to publicly announce how important he is to me, how I love him. And I think our wedding can do that.